Untangled Mind is an idea for a business name for my work with inner parts. One blog reply asked for a catchier name- does this do it? It describes how I often see this work: it feels like I have lots of tangled-up webs of feelings/thoughts/parts inside me, and I am learning to patiently (or not so patiently:) untangle them. I'd appreciate feedback.
This morning, for instance, I was wanting to mainly work on business ideas and even design some curriculum for my new class for teens. However, before I could start I was visited by a construction person who said we should tear out large parts of our front entryway because of the water damage from the winter's ice dam.
Immediate panic followed. This is an area I know little about, it involves lots of money, and I'm not sure who I can trust. A bad combination, especially for the perfectionist part of me who expects me to know all about everything and make perfect decisions at all times. The perfectionist triggers parts of me that feel worthless, as well as parts that procrastinate when I'm uncertain what steps to take next. A difficult mess to untangle!
I did some breathing and writing, which led to phoning a support person ( a wonderful suggestion). One of the best things I did was go back to my Inner Critic questionnaire, which asked what that part thinks would happen if I made a mistake. Some of the "dangers" are somewhat real (living with mold, spending way too much money) but some are emotional baggage (losing respect/love). I was able to sort through these issues and untangle at least a little bit of my emotional web.
The inner critic questionnaire is pretty cool, as is the ability to follow up and profile my particular inner critic and also my inner champion (parts that can answer the criticism). It is available here: http://www.personal-growth-programs.com/the-inner-critic .
Best wishes in your own untangling process!
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