Saturday, November 26, 2011
Strategies for daily work with parts
Hi all,
I am back, and wanting to connect with other people who work with parts of themselves. Since I've been trained in this inner parts work- first in Psychosynthesis and later in Inner Family Systems- I've felt a yearning to share these concepts with others. I've been greatly helped by knowing that I have different parts inside with sometimes contradictory needs, and that I can help these parts (and thereby my whole self) through working with and healing them. So I want to share this huge discovery with others. But more than that, I feel kind of lonely because these concepts are so completely different from how most people think about things. A friend of mine learned about parts and then told me there should be a 900 number for people who want to talk in this new way and not be thrown into an institution. He said that company would make lots of money!
I've come up with several questions that I'd like to discuss. I will post 1 each week. I will also share one thing I have learned about that question for my life, and one challenge I would like help with. If you feel so called, please respond with suggestions of your own. I am a perennial student, with lots of room to grow.
Question: What daily strategies or practices help you deal with your different parts? What helps you make it through the day in a healthy manner?
My best strategy; I am learning to notice when I feel panic somewhere in my body. This is usually a cue that there is a part that is worried about something- and I have no concious idea what it is. I try to take a few minutes as soon as possible to ask what that part is scared will happen, and then to respond as a parent would in reassuring a child. For example, I suddenly was nervous about insurance this morning- I have a policy that might expire soon. I realize that part of me is worried that I made a BIG MISTAKE, and that it might harm my children. These are 2 vulnerable areas for me (mistakes, hurting children). I thanked the part for sharing, and promised to look into this issue today. That's all it took to loosen the anxiety - for now.
My question: I am facing a pretty impossible workload on my job. There aren't enough hours in the day to finish all the things I feel I need to do. What are some strategies people have used to work with parts and deal with problems like this?
Thanks and blessings!
Karen
Thursday, July 28, 2011
New website and new online game opportunity
Greetings and hope your summer has been cooler than mine!
I have been working on a new idea for sharing information about parts, so I've been "offline" from the group for a while. How are people doing? I'm building a website called holistic-stress-management-coach.com - only 1 page now, more coming soon. It will try to translate parts work into stress management language- or something like that. We shall see!
Checkin-
Summer is sometimes difficult for me as a teacher (believe it or not). I am excited at the beginning , with many plans of what I want to accomplish, but always a fear at the back of my mind (another part) that knows it won't all get done! Then in the middle or end of summer I get rather depressed- it's all over, and stress is coming back bigtime.
This year I've done work on myself over the summer that I hope will make the school year better. I've learned how to spot stress when I experience it, how to identify which parts are upset more quickly and help them feel better in the short- and long-term. I've gotten back to a morning system- writing about parts/feelings, saying parts principles each day, and meditating each day. I think these are a good combination.
Online Parts Board Game Offered!
I am thinking of offering a parts game online experience. I invented a board game about different parts that is intended to help people get to know parts they don't know very well, while also hearing about and supporting others and their parts. And doing it all in a fun way. Kay Gardner, my level 1 teacher, played it and said it was "brilliant". I have found a way to play it online and am wondering if anyone would be interested in helping me "beta test" it- see what you think, what suggestions you might have to improve both the game and the online delivery system.
I would do it in my online "office" in Elluminate- I would send people a link, and you would see a game board and "cards" when you follow it. TO play you would be able to "hop" your piece around the board and draw cards to answer questions. If there were sound problems I would also supply a phone number for people (sometimes sound can be a problem depending on your internet connection). If a number of people wanted to try we could even make different virtual "rooms" and divide the group.
I have been working on a new idea for sharing information about parts, so I've been "offline" from the group for a while. How are people doing? I'm building a website called holistic-stress-management-coach.com - only 1 page now, more coming soon. It will try to translate parts work into stress management language- or something like that. We shall see!
Checkin-
Summer is sometimes difficult for me as a teacher (believe it or not). I am excited at the beginning , with many plans of what I want to accomplish, but always a fear at the back of my mind (another part) that knows it won't all get done! Then in the middle or end of summer I get rather depressed- it's all over, and stress is coming back bigtime.
This year I've done work on myself over the summer that I hope will make the school year better. I've learned how to spot stress when I experience it, how to identify which parts are upset more quickly and help them feel better in the short- and long-term. I've gotten back to a morning system- writing about parts/feelings, saying parts principles each day, and meditating each day. I think these are a good combination.
Online Parts Board Game Offered!
I am thinking of offering a parts game online experience. I invented a board game about different parts that is intended to help people get to know parts they don't know very well, while also hearing about and supporting others and their parts. And doing it all in a fun way. Kay Gardner, my level 1 teacher, played it and said it was "brilliant". I have found a way to play it online and am wondering if anyone would be interested in helping me "beta test" it- see what you think, what suggestions you might have to improve both the game and the online delivery system.
I would do it in my online "office" in Elluminate- I would send people a link, and you would see a game board and "cards" when you follow it. TO play you would be able to "hop" your piece around the board and draw cards to answer questions. If there were sound problems I would also supply a phone number for people (sometimes sound can be a problem depending on your internet connection). If a number of people wanted to try we could even make different virtual "rooms" and divide the group.
Saturday, May 28, 2011
Working with Parts helps relationships too!
This week I went on a school 2-day Spring Celebration field trip with my school. At the end of day 1 I found that I somehow reverted to a "self" I rarely inhabit- very outgoing (for me), talkative, trying to be useful and helpful whenever possible. By evening I realized I was exhausted and very much needed some down time. I also realized I felt lonely in a crowd, like I didn't belong there.
I tried to figure out what that was coming from, as it's a familiar feeling from my past. What I realized was that I had totally neglected all but my extravert/helpful part all day long, and so all the other parts were upset and needy. I took some time by myself (in the bathroom, as I had 2 students rooming in my room!) to write and do a mini meditation. That helped a lot. I began to feel more connected- not only to myself, but to the people around me. I didn't need to talk nonstop to connect with them, I mainly needed to connect with myself first!
The second day we went to an amusement park, and since I felt more whole I was able to sense what I needed. I suggested going on the ferris wheel (my favorite ride) and I ended up in a whole crowd of others who wanted that also. I was even the "brave one" on that ride- it was my native element (I like being above and looking down) while others were more used to roller coasters but didn't like hanging above it all for periods of time. I felt very proud :)
Then I saw there was an IMax movie about waves, and asked a student if she wanted to see it. We both loved the scenery and learning about surfing.
I'm so happy that connecting with myself has such a wonderful byproduct. It was my most enjoyable Spring Celebration ever!
I tried to figure out what that was coming from, as it's a familiar feeling from my past. What I realized was that I had totally neglected all but my extravert/helpful part all day long, and so all the other parts were upset and needy. I took some time by myself (in the bathroom, as I had 2 students rooming in my room!) to write and do a mini meditation. That helped a lot. I began to feel more connected- not only to myself, but to the people around me. I didn't need to talk nonstop to connect with them, I mainly needed to connect with myself first!
The second day we went to an amusement park, and since I felt more whole I was able to sense what I needed. I suggested going on the ferris wheel (my favorite ride) and I ended up in a whole crowd of others who wanted that also. I was even the "brave one" on that ride- it was my native element (I like being above and looking down) while others were more used to roller coasters but didn't like hanging above it all for periods of time. I felt very proud :)
Then I saw there was an IMax movie about waves, and asked a student if she wanted to see it. We both loved the scenery and learning about surfing.
I'm so happy that connecting with myself has such a wonderful byproduct. It was my most enjoyable Spring Celebration ever!
Monday, May 9, 2011
sources of inspiration
I've been finding and reminding myself of some cool, inspiring sources lately.
One of them is Workaholics anonymous. These are 2 of the "tools" of WA:
Accepting
> We accept the outcomes of our endeavors, whatever the
> results, whatever the timing. We know that impatience, rushing and
> insisting on perfect results only slow down our recovery. We are gentle
> with our efforts, knowing that our new way of living requires much
> practice.
>
> Asking
>
> We admit our weaknesses and mistakes. We
> realize we don't have to do everything ourselves, and we ask our Higher
> Power and others for help.
Parts of me struggle with this "accepting" thing. I try to make people happy often, and sometimes they are disappointed or angry instead. Their parts are reacting in ways I hadn't foreseen, and my parts then react to their reactions. I am coming to realize that maybe I can't see what is the best thing for them- maybe this event will be helpful for them in the long run. And maybe it will also be helpful for me- partly in seeing that someone else can be upset with me and I will still survive- and they will still love me! Self energy can help me see bigger pictures here.
Asking for help is difficult for me- I like to be the helper, not the helpee. My first goal is to realize when I'm in a part and ask for parts to step aside so I can have more Self energy present. Then I'm working with my parts to allow my relationships to be more mutual- sometimes I help, sometimes others do. Seems more egalitarian than the way I'm doing it now.
My last inspiring source is a new book by Mary Steege, with interviews of Richard Schwartz called THE SPIRIT-LED LIFE. Her writing is a bit more religious than I like, as she is a minister (although a truly seeking one). But the interview with Dick is wonderful. The last approximately 50 pages of the book contains an interview with Dick about spirituality and IFS. He clarifies some things for me, including the centrality of Self-leadership. He talks about how parts might use different religious concepts for their own purposes, and also about how IFS is essentially working with parts the same way Jesus said to work with people- forgiveness, understanding, generosity, etc. I love the thoughtfulness and thorougness of his answers, and I highly recommend reading at least the last part of this book!
As for my checkin- I am verrry gradually learning how it feels to be Self-led. It feels different both from when my parts lead (very insecure, worries at the back or front of my mind) and also from my old "meditate everything away" self (when I simply denied feelings and meditated instead). When issues come up I am more able to have inner conversations and calm down rather than bliss out. I'm using body signals- tightness, stomach upset- to signal when I need to connect with an upset part. Then I do a quick conversation with the part and give it what I can then, promising more later (I need to work on DOING the more later!)
I'd like to hear some stories from others- what is self leadership to you? What helps you to get/stay there?
Happy spring- it has even finally reached Minnesota!
Karen
One of them is Workaholics anonymous. These are 2 of the "tools" of WA:
Accepting
> We accept the outcomes of our endeavors, whatever the
> results, whatever the timing. We know that impatience, rushing and
> insisting on perfect results only slow down our recovery. We are gentle
> with our efforts, knowing that our new way of living requires much
> practice.
>
> Asking
>
> We admit our weaknesses and mistakes. We
> realize we don't have to do everything ourselves, and we ask our Higher
> Power and others for help.
Parts of me struggle with this "accepting" thing. I try to make people happy often, and sometimes they are disappointed or angry instead. Their parts are reacting in ways I hadn't foreseen, and my parts then react to their reactions. I am coming to realize that maybe I can't see what is the best thing for them- maybe this event will be helpful for them in the long run. And maybe it will also be helpful for me- partly in seeing that someone else can be upset with me and I will still survive- and they will still love me! Self energy can help me see bigger pictures here.
Asking for help is difficult for me- I like to be the helper, not the helpee. My first goal is to realize when I'm in a part and ask for parts to step aside so I can have more Self energy present. Then I'm working with my parts to allow my relationships to be more mutual- sometimes I help, sometimes others do. Seems more egalitarian than the way I'm doing it now.
My last inspiring source is a new book by Mary Steege, with interviews of Richard Schwartz called THE SPIRIT-LED LIFE. Her writing is a bit more religious than I like, as she is a minister (although a truly seeking one). But the interview with Dick is wonderful. The last approximately 50 pages of the book contains an interview with Dick about spirituality and IFS. He clarifies some things for me, including the centrality of Self-leadership. He talks about how parts might use different religious concepts for their own purposes, and also about how IFS is essentially working with parts the same way Jesus said to work with people- forgiveness, understanding, generosity, etc. I love the thoughtfulness and thorougness of his answers, and I highly recommend reading at least the last part of this book!
As for my checkin- I am verrry gradually learning how it feels to be Self-led. It feels different both from when my parts lead (very insecure, worries at the back or front of my mind) and also from my old "meditate everything away" self (when I simply denied feelings and meditated instead). When issues come up I am more able to have inner conversations and calm down rather than bliss out. I'm using body signals- tightness, stomach upset- to signal when I need to connect with an upset part. Then I do a quick conversation with the part and give it what I can then, promising more later (I need to work on DOING the more later!)
I'd like to hear some stories from others- what is self leadership to you? What helps you to get/stay there?
Happy spring- it has even finally reached Minnesota!
Karen
Sunday, April 24, 2011
Easter and parts
Easter is an up-and-down holiday for people around me. I was listening to someone describe his church experience growing up; he was recalling the horrifying priest's invitation to feel what it must have been like for Jesus to have nails driven into his hands. I was remembering hiding Easter eggs full of candy for my children, and dinners with extended family when I was growing up. Some things our parts may miss, and others they may be grateful to be out of (or somewhat stuck in like the nails in the hands).
Life continues at a breakneck pace, and my inner healing does also. There are revelations piled on healings and compounded by new/old wounds that are jostled. I'm thankful that I can do inner sessions with my parts, while also realizing that I won't be able to process everything that is coming up. If I can find a few moments to breathe and enjoy the healing that I DO experience (from a new church home to the baby leaves at the nature center), I count myself lucky!
Blessings this Spring/Easter/Challenging/Glorious day!
Karen
Life continues at a breakneck pace, and my inner healing does also. There are revelations piled on healings and compounded by new/old wounds that are jostled. I'm thankful that I can do inner sessions with my parts, while also realizing that I won't be able to process everything that is coming up. If I can find a few moments to breathe and enjoy the healing that I DO experience (from a new church home to the baby leaves at the nature center), I count myself lucky!
Blessings this Spring/Easter/Challenging/Glorious day!
Karen
Saturday, April 9, 2011
Inner Mentoring
I like the ring of that phrase! I want to offer classes and individual coaching, in person and online, to teach people how to access their "inner mentor" (Highest Self) and take care of their own needy inner parts.
I'm also interested in how to use inner parts work with physical problems. I talked this week to Nancy Sowell, who worked on an arthritis study which showed that people actually could lessen their physical pain by doing inner parts work. I had always believed this, but the interviews on this website prove it! (As does the study they did). Here is the website:
Arthritis study
http://www.pacostudy.org/player.swf?file=http://www.pacostudy.org/wp-content/uploads/LivingWellWithRA.flv&allowfullscreen=true&height=480&width=625&&id=veneers&searchbar=false&showicons=false&autostart=true&overstretch=fit&backcolor=0%C3%97287585&frontcolor=0xFFFFFF&lightcolor=0%C3%97000000 .
I am open to ideas on how to let people know about these classes and services. I will also be selling my game- perhaps retitling it the "Inner mentoring game" or something.
What do you think?
Personal checkin- I am making progress with my "not good enough" parts. I am learning to be gentler with myself, and to take more time to smell the roses (and do jigsaw puzzles) even during the WORK DAY (I work at home, so that is easier).
RIght now I am working with parts that don't like to bring up uncomfortable topics. I realized that when I keep not bringing things up that actually makes the problem worse, because some parts just burst out at some point, impatient with total lack of progress.
Anyone recognize this part? Have suggestions?
Thanks and blessings,
Karen
I'm also interested in how to use inner parts work with physical problems. I talked this week to Nancy Sowell, who worked on an arthritis study which showed that people actually could lessen their physical pain by doing inner parts work. I had always believed this, but the interviews on this website prove it! (As does the study they did). Here is the website:
Arthritis study
http://www.pacostudy.org/player.swf?file=http://www.pacostudy.org/wp-content/uploads/LivingWellWithRA.flv&allowfullscreen=true&height=480&width=625&&id=veneers&searchbar=false&showicons=false&autostart=true&overstretch=fit&backcolor=0%C3%97287585&frontcolor=0xFFFFFF&lightcolor=0%C3%97000000 .
I am open to ideas on how to let people know about these classes and services. I will also be selling my game- perhaps retitling it the "Inner mentoring game" or something.
What do you think?
Personal checkin- I am making progress with my "not good enough" parts. I am learning to be gentler with myself, and to take more time to smell the roses (and do jigsaw puzzles) even during the WORK DAY (I work at home, so that is easier).
RIght now I am working with parts that don't like to bring up uncomfortable topics. I realized that when I keep not bringing things up that actually makes the problem worse, because some parts just burst out at some point, impatient with total lack of progress.
Anyone recognize this part? Have suggestions?
Thanks and blessings,
Karen
Sunday, April 3, 2011
A Church for Parts?
I play flute, and I spent this morning playing for a church service. It made
parts of me sad and wistful. I don't belong to a church and don't really
believe in God as people in most churches talk about "Him". But I would still
like some of the other things in church- kids belonging to a fun group learning
about what is real and holy in the world, ritual and singing and uplifting
messages, hopeful community that supports each other through sickness and death
as well as birth and marriage.
In some ways my IFS training group was a little like that-encouraging each
other, sharing about joys and trials, experiencing deep feelings and spiritual
experiences together.
I would like to experience things like this more regularly. I'm thinking about
starting a meetup group, or maybe a subgroup within a church or other community,
that would fill some of these roles for me.
Most particularly, my parts would like for other people to recognize them and
share a common belief that loving and healing parts is a holy activity.
Maybe as I put the request out there it will be "heard" and "answered"
by......the universe?
Have a blessed week :)
Karen
parts of me sad and wistful. I don't belong to a church and don't really
believe in God as people in most churches talk about "Him". But I would still
like some of the other things in church- kids belonging to a fun group learning
about what is real and holy in the world, ritual and singing and uplifting
messages, hopeful community that supports each other through sickness and death
as well as birth and marriage.
In some ways my IFS training group was a little like that-encouraging each
other, sharing about joys and trials, experiencing deep feelings and spiritual
experiences together.
I would like to experience things like this more regularly. I'm thinking about
starting a meetup group, or maybe a subgroup within a church or other community,
that would fill some of these roles for me.
Most particularly, my parts would like for other people to recognize them and
share a common belief that loving and healing parts is a holy activity.
Maybe as I put the request out there it will be "heard" and "answered"
by......the universe?
Have a blessed week :)
Karen
Saturday, March 26, 2011
Peace/Distractions
I am realizing that my habitual state of being is rather frantic. I almost always have some distraction in front of me- tv, books, newspaper, public radio, etc. etc.
I think that is partly because otherwise I am at the mercy of my inner critics. There is one part nagging "you should be".... and another part saying "you shouldn't have..." . So I think the distractions keep those thoughts at bay.
Yesterday I turned off tv while I exercised (for a while) and today I closed my magazine while brushing my teeth. I want to heal those critic parts so they don't feel they NEED to nag or criticize. I will try to work with them this weekend. We shall see! I am going to try using new tools- specifically app on my phone- to write down lists so I don't need to keep them in my head. And I have JOTT, where I can talk on the phone and get trascript sent to my e-mail. I am going to try to use that for business ideas. Hopefully that will relax my frantic mind a bit and let me enjoy where I am- for once! :)
Newest business name: Mentor Your Selves: Help all your inner parts feel relaxed, confident and loved.
What do you think? The first part came from a friend who says mentoring is popular right now and that sounds comforting :) Thanks, Wendy!
I think that is partly because otherwise I am at the mercy of my inner critics. There is one part nagging "you should be".... and another part saying "you shouldn't have..." . So I think the distractions keep those thoughts at bay.
Yesterday I turned off tv while I exercised (for a while) and today I closed my magazine while brushing my teeth. I want to heal those critic parts so they don't feel they NEED to nag or criticize. I will try to work with them this weekend. We shall see! I am going to try using new tools- specifically app on my phone- to write down lists so I don't need to keep them in my head. And I have JOTT, where I can talk on the phone and get trascript sent to my e-mail. I am going to try to use that for business ideas. Hopefully that will relax my frantic mind a bit and let me enjoy where I am- for once! :)
Newest business name: Mentor Your Selves: Help all your inner parts feel relaxed, confident and loved.
What do you think? The first part came from a friend who says mentoring is popular right now and that sounds comforting :) Thanks, Wendy!
Tuesday, March 15, 2011
Untangled Mind
Untangled Mind is an idea for a business name for my work with inner parts. One blog reply asked for a catchier name- does this do it? It describes how I often see this work: it feels like I have lots of tangled-up webs of feelings/thoughts/parts inside me, and I am learning to patiently (or not so patiently:) untangle them. I'd appreciate feedback.
This morning, for instance, I was wanting to mainly work on business ideas and even design some curriculum for my new class for teens. However, before I could start I was visited by a construction person who said we should tear out large parts of our front entryway because of the water damage from the winter's ice dam.
Immediate panic followed. This is an area I know little about, it involves lots of money, and I'm not sure who I can trust. A bad combination, especially for the perfectionist part of me who expects me to know all about everything and make perfect decisions at all times. The perfectionist triggers parts of me that feel worthless, as well as parts that procrastinate when I'm uncertain what steps to take next. A difficult mess to untangle!
I did some breathing and writing, which led to phoning a support person ( a wonderful suggestion). One of the best things I did was go back to my Inner Critic questionnaire, which asked what that part thinks would happen if I made a mistake. Some of the "dangers" are somewhat real (living with mold, spending way too much money) but some are emotional baggage (losing respect/love). I was able to sort through these issues and untangle at least a little bit of my emotional web.
The inner critic questionnaire is pretty cool, as is the ability to follow up and profile my particular inner critic and also my inner champion (parts that can answer the criticism). It is available here: http://www.personal-growth-programs.com/the-inner-critic .
Best wishes in your own untangling process!
This morning, for instance, I was wanting to mainly work on business ideas and even design some curriculum for my new class for teens. However, before I could start I was visited by a construction person who said we should tear out large parts of our front entryway because of the water damage from the winter's ice dam.
Immediate panic followed. This is an area I know little about, it involves lots of money, and I'm not sure who I can trust. A bad combination, especially for the perfectionist part of me who expects me to know all about everything and make perfect decisions at all times. The perfectionist triggers parts of me that feel worthless, as well as parts that procrastinate when I'm uncertain what steps to take next. A difficult mess to untangle!
I did some breathing and writing, which led to phoning a support person ( a wonderful suggestion). One of the best things I did was go back to my Inner Critic questionnaire, which asked what that part thinks would happen if I made a mistake. Some of the "dangers" are somewhat real (living with mold, spending way too much money) but some are emotional baggage (losing respect/love). I was able to sort through these issues and untangle at least a little bit of my emotional web.
The inner critic questionnaire is pretty cool, as is the ability to follow up and profile my particular inner critic and also my inner champion (parts that can answer the criticism). It is available here: http://www.personal-growth-programs.com/the-inner-critic .
Best wishes in your own untangling process!
Tuesday, March 8, 2011
Focusing on parts
Greetings! I hope things are going well with you and your working with parts.
I realized today that one of my main goals right now is to get better at working with my own parts. I am noticing periods of time when I blast right through feelings rather than processing them. I sometimes go for hours on adrenaline energy rather than feeling calm and centered. This state of unease disrupts my sleep, disturbs my stomach, and makes me feel vaguely nervous much of the time.
For the next 30 days I am going to emphasize parts as one of my main concerns. How are my parts doing? What do I need to make sure I do/think about/remember before I finish my day? It's like the top thing on my "to do" list is communicate with parts and make sure I am attempting to be centered.
I also realized today that I won't do this perfectly, and all my parts felt happier once I accepted this. It's hard to get into new habits, and this centering/parts communicating habit is very new. So even if I go 2 steps forward and 3 back, I am encouraged that there is movement. And that I am noticing movement in this new direction.
How do others remember to listen and center? I don't want to only listen to parts, or only meditate/center. I want to do both, in order to be more whole.
One strategy from today: notice body cues about tension. My shoulders have been very sore from being in a defensive position so much. I want to know about my tense parts, and also be able to relax them. So this week I'll try to work with tense parts and also relaxation of shoulders. I'll check in next week with results.
How is your working with parts going? Any clues or cues you could share?
Thanks,
Karen
I realized today that one of my main goals right now is to get better at working with my own parts. I am noticing periods of time when I blast right through feelings rather than processing them. I sometimes go for hours on adrenaline energy rather than feeling calm and centered. This state of unease disrupts my sleep, disturbs my stomach, and makes me feel vaguely nervous much of the time.
For the next 30 days I am going to emphasize parts as one of my main concerns. How are my parts doing? What do I need to make sure I do/think about/remember before I finish my day? It's like the top thing on my "to do" list is communicate with parts and make sure I am attempting to be centered.
I also realized today that I won't do this perfectly, and all my parts felt happier once I accepted this. It's hard to get into new habits, and this centering/parts communicating habit is very new. So even if I go 2 steps forward and 3 back, I am encouraged that there is movement. And that I am noticing movement in this new direction.
How do others remember to listen and center? I don't want to only listen to parts, or only meditate/center. I want to do both, in order to be more whole.
One strategy from today: notice body cues about tension. My shoulders have been very sore from being in a defensive position so much. I want to know about my tense parts, and also be able to relax them. So this week I'll try to work with tense parts and also relaxation of shoulders. I'll check in next week with results.
How is your working with parts going? Any clues or cues you could share?
Thanks,
Karen
Saturday, February 12, 2011
Feelings during the work day
I have been trying to start an online support group (it's at http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/partsarecool/ if you're interested in joining).
What I realized is that I'm often the only person posting. That said, it seems more like a blog than a support group. So I decided to put some time and energy into the blog instead.
I am getting better at sensing when part of me is upset. I often feel kind of panicky inside, but what I've learned in the past is to ignore that feeling and instead just get busy- watch tv, do some work, go for a walk, worry about work, etc.
This week I tried to actually deal with that feeling soon after it came up. I realized one day that I messed up at work, and then part of me got very worried. When I sat quietly and asked why, it turned out that that part thought I would get fired and starve. I reassured the part that 1 mistake won't get me fired. I immediately felt calmer, and I again realized that it works so much better to find out about the feeling during the day than to wake up with it in the middle of the night.
I'm interested in others' experience of dealing with feelings during the day. How do others do it?
Thx,
Karen
What I realized is that I'm often the only person posting. That said, it seems more like a blog than a support group. So I decided to put some time and energy into the blog instead.
I am getting better at sensing when part of me is upset. I often feel kind of panicky inside, but what I've learned in the past is to ignore that feeling and instead just get busy- watch tv, do some work, go for a walk, worry about work, etc.
This week I tried to actually deal with that feeling soon after it came up. I realized one day that I messed up at work, and then part of me got very worried. When I sat quietly and asked why, it turned out that that part thought I would get fired and starve. I reassured the part that 1 mistake won't get me fired. I immediately felt calmer, and I again realized that it works so much better to find out about the feeling during the day than to wake up with it in the middle of the night.
I'm interested in others' experience of dealing with feelings during the day. How do others do it?
Thx,
Karen
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